Understanding Your Partner
It has been theorized too many times that men and women are diametrically opposite beings. The theory goes on to say that there are totally different things that drive both these genders, and there are different things that they are looking for. That is the reason men and women act and behave in radically different ways.
Now, while the truth is that nature itself has ordained us to be different, which means our behaviors are characteristic of the gender that we belong to, it is also a sordid fact that this can create a lot of problems. There are many instances in which men and women do not understand each other, which invariably lead to disagreements and arguments between the two ending in drastic steps such as breakup and divorce.
There are some pretty heavy and deplorable numbers about relationships that have not worked out, while it is true that if just a little more effort and understanding were used, these relationships could have worked amazingly well.
This is what we have to understand and accept. Instead of creating the world into a war zone full of enmity between the sexes, it is important to understand the diametrical differences between the two genders, and live in harmony. We are designed to be different. It is time to accept that and live in harmony.
Respect Your Partner
In this roller coaster world of love and relationships, it is reassuring to know that fairy tale love can and does exist. Sincere expectations of love provide an understanding that love that is deep and realistic allows your partner to make mistakes. It allows there to be inevitable differences of opinions and preferences between the couples. Anything less than this respect for the other is not true love at all.
There is a saying in the Bible that states, “love covers a multitude of sins” This is the potential of a relationship that is based on mutual understanding and respect. In this type of relationship, a couple can appreciate and express the strengths and abilities their partner can offer them within the relationship. Negativity is replaced by positivity and even the small things that are done by the partner in a spirit of love and cooperation is accepted as an expression of that love.
There Is Always Tomorrow
The wonderful things about relationships are that they can always be turned around if both partners are committed to making it work. No matter how the situation in your marriage may look today, things can improve and your relationship can become a strong and lasting union.
Once you have dealt with what is causing your relationship to break down, take positive steps to identify ways you can improve it. Chronic stress is a significant factor in relationship breakdown, and addressing the cause of the stress in either or both partners will immediately remove a great deal of pressure from the relationship.
Whatever the cause of the stress, work as a couple to reduce it. Revise the hormonal and physiological differences between men and women and reduce the expectations you may have of marriage. This may require you and your partner to spend time reflecting on where your relationship was at the beginning, what you expected to get from your relationship, and why that expectation is not being met. Spend time reflecting on the frustrations you feel in the relationship as it is today and how you can both address these frustrations to help eliminate them.
Remember you can only change yourself not the other person. It is often easier in a painful situation, particularly one that has a lot of conflict in it, to look to blame the other partner for the problems. Instead, try perhaps with the help of friend or counselor, to look at how you can change what you are doing and modify your expectations, as you focus on gender differences and self-care to look after your own emotional needs.
Relationships Require Understanding Your Partner