Your relationship greatly depends on Bringing Out The Best In Your Partner. Therefore, the question of the hour is how to bring out the best in your partner? It is common knowledge that your relationship can either bring out the best or the worst in you. To bring out the best in you, you will have to ensure that your partner is also at their best. This article will cover what you need to do to bring out the best in your partner
Bringing out the best in your partner?
You should first focus on yourself. This may sound contradictory but it is part of human nature that, how you feel will also partly influence how your partner feels around you. Try and do things that will increase your level of self-awareness. For example, try to consciously enjoy being around your partner. This may make you realize some patterns, beliefs, reactions and feelings that your partner has.
Realize your own feelings, needs and thoughts and be responsible for them without blaming anyone. Tell your partner how he or she makes you feel when they do something that you like. For example, instead of saying, “you make me feel appreciated every time you say, I love you”, try saying, “I always feel appreciated whenever you tell me that you love me”. It is also a good thing to state your needs since your partner may not be aware of what you need or what is bothering you. Whenever possible, you should try finding ways to be reciprocal in satisfying needs.
When your partner does something that bothers you, take time before confronting them. When you do this, you may realize that you are the one in the wrong. For example, if your partner starts behaving like they do not want to be around you anymore, try looking at this at many angles. It may be because of something you did that offended them; they may be stressed at the workplace or even just in a bad mood. Once you are calmer, use this formula: whenever you…. (Try standing on neutral ground), I always feel…. (Bring out your emotion without blaming anyone), and I would appreciate it if you and I will…. (State your request about a behavioral change by always including yourself).
Always try to consider your partner’s feelings. Try not to jump at your partner when they make a mistake. This goes a long way in making your partner feel good about themselves. When you understand that sometimes people make mistakes just as you do, your partner will feel at ease whenever they are together with you. You should also not generalize all the negative aspects about your partner. For example, do not tell your partner that there are things that they never do right. As a matter of fact, never use the words “never” and “always” regarding your partner’s behaviors. Why? Because those words are “relationship killers”.
Lastly, it is very important to set aside a specific time and place to complain to each other. Honestly, there will be times when you and/or your partner will feel the need to complain about something. During this time, you can start with a complaint and then it’s your partner’s turn. This always brings out an issue that you never thought was existent in your relationship. But don’t end the conversation on the complaint, turn the complaint into a compliment. This is one of the best ways that you can learn how to bring out the best in your partner.
Bringing Out The Best in your Partner