“A healthy relationship is one which allows for change and growth in the individuals and in the way they express their love.” Whereas a Stressful Relationship is one facades and images are nurtured but the relationship is self-destructing.
When two people decide to enter into a serious relationship, it means they are making a big commitment. It means they should stay with each other through sickness and in health, for richer or for poorer, till death do them part. Getting into a committed relationship is the sign of the fullness of their deep romantic love for each other. Yet, their love for each other is tested in the course of time. First, there would be the adjustment period. All couples go through that. There is a saying that you only get to know the person if both of you exclusively commit.
The routine of everyday life brings unrealistic expectations. Relational disenchantment comes in and it is expressed shortly just after the honeymoon period wears off. This is the time when imperfections can be seen. Shortcomings can be blown out of proportion. Some eccentric behavior which you found “cute” before now becomes annoying. Aside from your own problems as a couple, you have to deal with money matters, and certain conflicts which could become the cause of your stress and anxiety.
When negative emotions and actions take over, it becomes the perfect recipe for relational disharmony thus producing a stressful relationship. Unless you become aware of your own hurtful attitudes or actions, chances are, you won’t do anything about it. Commitment is accepting who that person really is. We need to practice self-control and learn not to have so many expectations.
The following tips will show you how to keep that “freshness” in your relationship:
TIPS ON KEEPING PASSION IN YOUR RELATIONSHIP………
1. UNDERSTANDING – We all need reassurance. Reinforce this by showing affection, a simple praise, hug or kiss will do. We should learn to communicate our feelings to our mate. Don’t be defensive. When you have a minor spat…say “I’m sorry.” and really mean it. The sooner you do this, the sooner your mate will stop resenting you.
2. LEARN TO ACCEPT– All committed relationships go through certain obstacles. The one that you’ve committed to turns out not to be the “angel” that you envisioned or the “knight of shining armor.” Real love takes a lot of patience. So go beyond your illusions on what or how your mate should be. Rather, focus on yourself and start to make the necessary changes needed to improve who you are.
3. MEET HALFWAY- In every situation, especially when you reach the point that you are angry, hurt, and frustrated — you have to learn how to meet halfway. In other words, you must know how to compromise or negotiate. No two human beings are exactly alike. So settle your differences and learn to forgive each other right away. Don’t let the sun go down on your “anger” without you and your mate finding the solution.
4. REKINDLE – How do you refresh and fix a troublesome relationship? Bring back the love and intimacy. Work on it. Work on your relationship. Like life….committed relationships are not a bed of roses. You have to work it out with your partner by investing time, love, money, and interest in each other. Bring back the closeness by being honest, non-argumentative, and non-judgmental. Being happy together brings good mental as well as physical health.
Yes, you and your partner should be on top of everything, be in charge of keeping your romance alive and let your friendship/relationship blossom the way it was meant to be.
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