Save Your Relationship
Treat your partner like you would your best friend, because really when it comes down to it, that is what they should be to you. Too often, people are holding their partners to a higher standard than they would anyone else on the planet. Stop putting so much pressure on them. While relationships do require work to make them endure through adversity, at the most fundamental basic level they should be fun. When was the last time you did something new and exciting with your partner? Go out on a date with each other, and make a habit of it. Turn your cell phones off, and rediscover what made you fall in love in the first place. It is so easy to fall into the pattern of everyday life that your partner becomes a glorified roommate. Don’t let that happen; never stop dating.
Learn how to fight better
Learn how to fight better. Take accountability for your own emotions. Don’t tell your partner that they “made” you feel a certain way. Stop lying, you made yourself feel that way. They just did something that triggered something in you. Consider why that is and talk to them about it without placing blame on your partner. While you are at it, stop telling your partner what they are thinking. You don’t actually know what they are thinking, and all this does is serve to make them angry and cause a fight.
Fighting about fighting
You will inevitably just fight about fighting, and the issue that was the catalyst to all of this will never get resolved. If you have an issue that you would like to resolve in the relationship, consider telling your partner that you would like to talk to them about something that is bothering you and ask when a good time to talk is. This way you are preparing your partner for the conversation, and they are more likely to come into it in a calm manner rather than if they were reacting to an abrasive comment from thin air.
When talking out issues, stay on point. Don’t stray from the issue at hand. Something to consider before taking out the mundane annoyances of everyday life on your partner, is if this will matter a year from now. If not, then consider just letting it be. Minimizing the pointless fights in a relationship will improve the quality of your happiness immensely. If you and your partner have difficulty exercising these suggestions, consider seeing a therapist for a third party position to arbitrate your discussions over grievances in a relationship.