Are you tired of spending your Saturday nights home alone? Have you decided that you are ready to get back into the dating world without all the drama? Perhaps you are open to the thought of dating, but are unsure about where to begin. The following are just a few tips to help make your experience exciting, fun and successful while avoiding Relationship Roulette.
Avoiding Relationship Roulette
WHAT DO YOU DESIRE?
The first step to making dating a positive experience is knowing what you want. Are you interested in casual dating, or are you looking for a serious, long-term courtship? Are you looking to spend every waking moment with your new companion, or do you simply need someone to accompany you to the occasional movie or play? The more honest you are with yourself about what you want while dating, the easier it will be to identify someone who fits the bill and you will be more apt to communicate your expectations openly. By maintaining a realistic view, you can avoid wasting time in an incompatible relationship.
LOOKING YOUR BEST
Your mother was right – when you look good, you feel good. As you sift through your closet to find the perfect date outfit, remember to find something great without compromising comfort. Rather than going out to buy something new and risk having to endure a tag or zipper poking you all night(tags talk now via the Hanes commercials), it may be a safer bet to go with something tried and true. The more comfortable you are in your skin (and clothing) the more attention you can direct to getting to know your date.
BREAKING THE ICE
The best way to have a great time on a first date is the keep things light. First dates are known to make both parties nervous; therefore, anything you can do to make your date laugh is sure to make for a more pleasant experience. Avoid discussing heavy topics such as politics and religion on the first date – those can be discussed at a later time if things progress. Try not to take yourself so seriously – perhaps the two of you can enjoy a game of pool or miniature golf. The more memorable the date is, for the right reasons, the more likely you are to be asked on a second date.
As you find yourself back in the dating scene, it is important to keep a level head. First dates are to get to know the other person, not to plan your wedding and discuss the baptism of your first child. Realize that while the two of you may appear to be compatible, there is still more time needed to truly understand whether the person is really a match. On the other hand, refrain from being too judgmental. If you are tempted to criticize your date for minor things that may not measure up to your “list”, remember that you are flawed as well. More often than not, overly judgmental people tend to find themselves alone.
READY, SET, DATE!
Dating doesn’t have to be an unpleasant experience. As you maintain a realistic approach about what you want, you will find yourself looking forward to getting to know someone new. Relax – there’s nothing left to do but smile and enjoy the night!!!
Avoiding Relationship Roulette