When your love life stinks
It would be more than fair to say that my love life has gone down hill recently. As a matter of fact, I would go as far as to say my love life stinks.
I really feel that I have been unlucky in love, and I now realize the only thing left to do is to make some changes. Yesterday I spent most of the evening curled up in my favorite armchair, contemplating my love life. It dawned on me that if I did not do something about it, I might risk ending up being single for the rest of my life. So I formulated a three-step action plan and it is now time to put it into action.
Changing my attitude to love
Thinking about it, I have up until now been getting involved in romantic relationships as they make me feel good. I love that butterfly feeling I get when I meet someone new, and they seem to take an interest in me. However, I should ask myself if this is really loving, or is it just a romantic feeling which will eventually flutter away.
If I want to find a love I need to change my attitude, and that may mean I need to look a little bit deeper. I shouldn’t allow the butterfly feelings to take over my love life. I should try to stay somewhat objective and find out what I have in common with the other person. Having a common interest is crucial, otherwise, you risk running out of the conversation after a while.
Communication and love
Having a friendly chat with a new love interest is a great start, but if I want to get involved in something more serious, I need to communicate. Communication is not only about talking; it is also about listening and processing information. Often we are so anxious to talk about ourselves that we forget to listen to what the other person has to say.
It is good to stop for a while to listen to what the other person has to say, and process what you have heard. I need to ask myself if it makes sense to me, and fits in with my core values. Sometimes sorting out your own love life is all about communicating with yourself as well.
Spending time on love
True love does not really require that much money invested in it, which I don’t have much of anyway, but what it really needs is time. And even If I did have plenty money to spend on going out to nice restaurants, I need to ask myself if this is time well spent.
Time is perhaps one of the most important aspects of a relationship. We should try to spend as much time as possible in an environment which allows us to communicate more with each other. Our lives are often so hectic that we neglect to remember that time can help us to cultivate feelings for each other.
When it comes to time there is one more important factor to consider. I should always ask myself if I enjoy spending time in the other person’s company. If the answer is no, then I’m wasting time and obviously, my love life is not going to be what I want it to be.
At the moment I would say that my love life stinks, but I have decided to follow my three step action plan. Hopefully, I should soon notice some positive changes.