If you and your significant other are about to break up help is out there to show you how to get it done right. Don’t ever break up with someone over the phone or in a text message. Break up with them in person, preferably in private. Don’t humiliate them by breaking up in public. You will end up having more respect for yourself and although they will not like the fact you are breaking up with them, they will have more respect for you in the long run.
Obviously, if your significant other has a tendency to become violent this advice will not apply to your situation. Stay safe and handle the break up over the phone or in public.
Honesty is important
Honesty is important, but if the reason you need break up is that you have met someone else, keep that information to yourself. Even if they ask, don’t tell them. There is no point in causing them more pain than they feel already. Go ahead and start your new relationship, but do yourself a favor even though you may not want to, try to keep it on the down-low. At least for a while. You don’t want your ex to come at you or your new partner in a jealous rage.
Plan out what you want to say beforehand because no matter how you feel you will be nervous when breaking up with them. Stand your ground. You have made this decision for a reason so stick to it. You will sound less convincing if you try to let them down easy. They will be just as hurt either way so state your reasons calmly and confidently…then run for cover, lol. No really, this is serious, feelings are involved!
A sense of loss
When the break up is done, don’t call them for any reason and don’t take their calls. This will only give them false hope and keep the hurt fresh in both your minds. Don’t kid yourself, you will feel a sense of loss after the breakup, too. Change the habits the two of you had. Don’t keep going to the same coffee house or restaurants you did when you were together. You might accidentally bump into them and then they might think you were there just to see them.
If you haven’t already met someone new, it’s probably best to hold off on dating for a while. You may have had more time to process the break up than your ex, but you should still give yourself some time to adjust to your new single life. It sounds weird, but even if you’re the one who ended the relationship, you can be vulnerable to a rebound relationship too which becomes a “baggage dump”, so give it some time.
Most people don’t realize that no matter which side of the break up you are on, it’s tough. Unless your ex-was a real jerk, you’ll want to find a way to end the relationship as gently, yet firmly, as possible. Following these tips will give you the break up help you need.