You’ve probably heard the expression that “Actions Speak Louder Than Words.” While it may be a bit trite, there is a grain of truth to it. Communication is vital to the success of all relationships and it can be in both verbal and physical form. When this communication is honest and straight forward, it’s possible for actions and words to go hand in hand rather than things being an “either or” situation. Words that are spoken can easily be followed by action.
Actions Speak Louder Than Words
In many relationships, men have trouble expressing their feelings for their partners in a verbal way. Yet, these same men bring their wives and girlfriends flowers for no reason, serve them breakfast in bed, pick up the most recent bestseller by their favorite writers or singers, and take them out to their favorite restaurants for dinner. Now, these men may not say I love you often, but their actions speak louder than words leaving no doubt about their feelings. This is the perfect example of “actions speak louder than words”.
There can also be subtle ways where actions and words don’t exactly match. This is usually to avoid confrontations or other conflicts. It can also be to keep from hurting someone’s feelings. For example, your partner cooks you a romantic dinner and serves it to you by candlelight. The meat is so tough you could play ball with it. The vegetables are undercooked and the wine is taste like vinegar. You know that your partner has worked very hard on this meal and you don’t want to hurt their feelings. In this case their actions speak louder than words. So you say how good it all tastes and as you’re speaking, you’re trying not to choke. But this is an example of using words and actions in opposition of each other.
Everyone wants to hear the words I love you from time to time. But, in the end, if someone is SHOWING you how they feel, that can be much more important overall. They are demonstrating for you actions speak louder than words. Consider all the couples that say I love you constantly. The other thing they do constantly is fight with each other and speak negatively about each other behind their backs. Now, while they DO SAY the words, they certainly DON’T ACT as if they mean them. Consequently, they’re actions speak louder than words.
A big question, then, becomes, would you rather have the words spoken to you while having actions directed at you that are far less than loving, or do you want the actions and really don’t care about the words? Only you can decide what you need the most and what matters more to you. Of course, it’s always much better when you can have the right amount of both, and many couples pull that off. However, if you can’t manage that, remember that if the words and actions don’t match, then it is the “actions speak louder than words” that mean the most. A lot of promises are made through words but unless they are backed up by actions, the words become nothing more than empty promises.
Communication works best in relationships if each partner is careful to make their words and actions match. Something else you get from this is increased self-esteem and a sincere emotional connection.
Isn’t it worth the effort?
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